Maybe You’re Not Meant to Be Tamed

One day, while I was sitting in our small, wild garden, something shifted inside of me.

The grass was high. There were nettles and dandelions growing freely between vegetables and fruit trees. Wild flowers mixed with herbs. Nothing perfectly arranged. Nothing controlled.

And suddenly, I saw myself the same way.

Like a wild garden.
Full of diversity and abundance.
Contradictions.
Softness and strength.
Beauty and mess.
High grass and unexpected fruit.

And I realized how much energy I had spent trying to tame that wilderness.
Trying to make myself neater.
More acceptable.
More aligned with what feels “normal.”

The Pressure to Trim Ourselves

We are not really taught how to nurture our inner wilderness.
We are taught to cut the grass evenly. Keep the hedge trimmed. Don’t grow too far beyond the fence.

Because what a mess it would be if we stood out.
If we didn’t look like our neighbors. If we allowed our differences to be visible.

So we learn to manage ourselves. To reduce ourselves.
To edit out the parts that feel too much.
But what if that wildness is not a flaw? What if it’s our strength?

Maybe You Are a Wild Garden

A wild garden is not chaotic for no reason.
It is alive.

It holds medicinal plants and nourishing vegetables.
It invites bees and birds.
It creates its own ecosystem.
It is resilient because of its diversity.

It doesn’t grow in straight lines - but it grows abundantly.

Maybe you are like that too.
Maybe the parts you’ve been trying to control or hide are actually the very things that make you unique.
Maybe you were never meant to be shaped into something uniform.

Nurturing Instead of Taming

The problem is not that we are wild.
The problem is that we were never taught how to listen.

What inside you asks to be tended?
What needs water?
What needs space?
What needs nourishment?

There is a difference between tending to a garden and forcing it into a shape it was never meant to hold.
One is care.
The other is control.

If You Don’t Fit

So if you feel ashamed for not fitting into the narrow boxes of society…
If you feel wrong for being “too much” or “not enough”…

Maybe you are not meant to fit.
Maybe you were born as a wild garden.
And you are not here to be tamed.